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Do you often feel judged? Do you find
yourself judging others? Judgment is more
powerful in your life than you may realize.
No matter how you chose to live your life,
or what you may do, there will be others
that judge you. It is that simple. However,
plagued with self-doubt as a result is no
way to live! Often others that are insecure
in their own lives judge more often than
those who are confident in themselves.
Let’s look at three ways to deal with your
own judgment and the judgment of others:
We are our own worst enemy. If you tend
to judge yourself a lot, you will undoubtedly
judge others. The thought process of
comparing ourselves to others leads to
additional guilt, shame, or even arrogance.
Regardless, it whittles away at the self-
esteem of others and yourself. When you
catch yourself judging, stop it, and think of a
positive attribute of the person. Most often
judgment is rooted in assumption, not fact.
Learning to love yourself frees you from
the chains of self-doubt and the cuffs of
judgment. I know, easier said than done!
As those negative thoughts about yourself
rattle in your head, care enough to stop
them. Would you say those thoughts to
a friend? No,no you wouldn’t. Do not
permit yourself to simmer in the negatively.
Instead, stop the thought and state
something positive about your life.
So what do you do if someone blatantly
judges you? Cliché as it may sound, ignore
it. With a firm love for yourself, others do
not define you. Do not permit them to
speak ill of you. If it is a relationship with an
employer, listen respectfully, then remind
By Kristie Knights, LPC
AreYoua
Judgment Junkie?
SOAR TO SUCCESS
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Personal Growth Strategies